7 Tips on How to Sext, Skype Sex, or have Phone Sex Without Feeling Awkward

August 18, 2019

7 Tips on How to Sext, Skype Sex, or have Phone Sex Without Feeling Awkward

Like it or not, we live in a world where sexting, FaceTime or Skype sex, and yes, even phone sex, are the norm. These methods are used every day by couples in long-distance relationships and otherwise to build anticipation, masturbate, or turn each other on. Done right, this type of sex is incredible. Done wrong, it can be pretty awkward.

 

How to have phone sex or how to sext follows some basic rules that can be taken further when you’re ready. Regardless of where you’re at with sexting or Facetime sex, the first step with a partner is always to ask first by saying, “I’ve been wondering if you wanted to try having phone sex. I think it’d be hot.” Easy and to the point. Here are 7 other quick tips on how to get long-distance sex done without any awkwardness involved.

 

Suspense and excitement for it.

 

You don’t want to start off with anything too graphic or advanced. Something as simple as, “I’ve been thinking about you naked all day” works. If you don’t feel like they’re inspired or if it’s not working for you, you may wish to take another approach or cool it off for now. Also, sexting does not have to lead to real sex or masturbation. It can simply be a single text or message – nothing more.

 

Comfortable before it gets going.

 

If you or your partner aren’t in a comfortable location and don’t give consent to continue, any sort of sex like this isn’t going to work. If your partner’s at work, in a business meeting, or at a company dinner, this isn’t the best place for things to get steamy. If you can’t or they can’t, no worries and don’t take it personally. All participants need to be physically comfortable.

 

The more description, the better.

 

Get wordy. Before you get on your smartphone, you may want to watch some porn to get some ideas or write out a few phrases you want to use to help visualize your sexual fantasy. Describe erogenous zones on the body with synonyms and adjectives to your heart’s content. By knowing more about what you want to say when things really get going, you’ll feel more comfortable to connect.

 

Can you use toys in phone sex – yes!

 

Some partners may not be cool with using sex toys during Skype sex or phone sex so be sure to ask. If it’s a go, you can describe where you’re putting it, how hard you’re pressing it against you, how fast it’s moving, and how you feel. Do keep in mind, sexting or phone sex isn’t about an orgasm. It’s more about pleasure between partners so don’t jump right to the climax.

 

Listen to the other person.

 

Sexting is as much about pleasing you as it is your partner. Be attentive to your partner to make sure you’re pressing the right buttons. Don’t be afraid to verbalize what you’re feeling using whatever words you’re comfortable with. Stay present and in the mood.

 

Consider role-playing.

 

Going with voice-to-voice old-style phone sex, it can be a fun way to be silly, act, and roleplay. This can be a gateway to roleplaying if it’s something you’ve always wanted to try. Get creative. Take on an accent if you want, or lower or raise the pitch of your voice.

 

Not sure what to say? Go to your past.

 

If you run into a dead-end or you’re not sure what to say, bring up a sexy memory from the past you’ve shared with your partner. This is an easy go-to and you’ll never run out of things to say. Sexting and especially when you can hear or see each other, it’s like having your own porn experience ready to tap into whenever you want. This is why more and more modern couples love taking advantage of all this technology!