9 Sex Myths we Still Believe in 2019, and What We’re Still Learning about Love and Sex
Just because we’re all adults, it doesn’t mean some of us aren’t still way clueless about certain aspects of sex. The complexities of love and sex admittedly can sometimes lead to the spread of misinformation, sadly reinforced over years of people failing to correct us. So here’s some correcting we’re about to do. Here are 9 sex myths a lot of us still believe.
Peeing before sex reduces the chance of an STI.
Sadly, no. If you pee before sex, that’s not a guarantee you’re not going to get an STI. That said, peeing after sex is recommended especially in women as it helps to flush out the bacteria, minimizing the chance of developing a post-sex UTI.
Virgin sex means blood.
A lot of young people believe virginity is decided by whether a female has an intact hymen. This isn’t correct. Some women are born without a hymen and others tear theirs during strenuous exercise. You don’t need your hymen to be a virgin and virginity sex isn’t always going to mean blood.
Sex in a relationship increases with age and gets better.
It’s not guaranteed sex in a relationship is going to become more frequent and get better over time. In a healthy relationship, however, where both partners want to work towards better sex, amazing things can happen – believe us when we say it.
Sex always leads to orgasm.
Sex isn’t just about the journey towards an orgasm. In fact, many couples have sex where sometimes orgasm isn’t achieved for one of the partners. Women, in particular, typically need clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm with penetration not getting the job done all the way.
Men think about sex way more than women.
Men are seen as overly sexual beings whereas women are thought to not really give it much thought. The reality is that men think about sex on average 18 times a day, according to a 2011 Ohio University study. Comparatively, women think about it 10 times a day. The difference isn’t large.
You can’t get pregnant on your period.
Wrong. Although it’s commonly believed you won’t get pregnant during the period time, if you decide to have unprotected sex, you could not only conceive but also end up with an STI as the risk of STI increases when a woman is on her period.
If you have a bad back, you can’t have passionate sex.
Unless you’ve been advised by your doctor to avoid it, there’s no reason anyone with back pain should avoid sex. If you are injured in some way or have a bad back, be wise about the positions you choose and be sure not to aggravate any pain.
Pulling out in contraception.
Pulling out is not a form of contraception. Even if you’re an expert at knowing when to pull out, many couples before you have relied on this method for contraception and eventually, they all end up with a pregnancy.
Sex increases the likelihood of a heart attack.
There’s no evidence showing a link between sex and a heart attack. That said, if one has had a heart attack, it’s recommended to wait at least 4-6 weeks before having sex again. That’s the same for strenuous exercise as well.